The following was extracted from a post I recently read, that is totally and completely off topic. But the principles in the idea is what I focused on.
Don't tell me what you're against; tell me what you're for.
Don't tell me who to blame; tell me what you're working on.
Don't tell me what's wrong with "them"; tell me what's going to work.
Tell me the kind of change you're championing and the commitment you're ready to make to make it happen.
The concepts illustrate the positions I wish I saw people, my peers, my teams take rather than what has been my pet peeve with the common communication style that I have observed as prevalent amongst most of my recent work environments.
People complaint, they rehash the past, they blame and they pout, but seldom do they solve the problem on their own… it takes so much effort to guide them to that point.
What am I doing about it? (I won’t fall prey of the same trap) I am nipping whiners and complaints in the bud. I have to ask sometimes more than a few times, for actionable initiatives, doable items, far from pipe dreams (which also tend to be used as excuses).
Yes, I have gotten results, most good. Getting small wins tend to give people the boost of confidence and positive reinforcement they need to mold behavior and drop bad habits.
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